Marriage, Family & Parenting

Watch this before doing anything else, especially if you're hoping to work with a coach.

• VideoCoach Zubair's approach to Relationship Coaching — covers past issues, focus areas, the time categories below.
• VideoPersonal & Family Development — Five Pillars of Success
• WorksheetStep Up & Be A Leader (slides + worksheet)
• FormEvaluate the current state of your relationship — self-reflection form.

Strong relationships come from deliberate time across six distinct categories. Not one big thing — the small recurring ones.

• TemplatesAtomic Habits — free templates — habit tracker for any of the six categories.

Common questions and the lectures that address them in detail.

• Rights of parents over sons
• Obligations of children towards neglectful parents
• The Abuse of Obedience: Parents, Spouses & Children — Sh. Abu Eesa & Sh. Ammar AlShukry
• When parents are displeased
• When parents have not done good for me / hate me
• My parents are forcing me to marry my cousin — Sh. Abu Eesa
• Why show respect to parents
• Smartphones and children
• More Q&A on parents — MuftiQA — search results; works best on desktop.

Recurring questions and the talks that handle them seriously.

• It seems my spouse does not care
• Trust issues & cheating
• Spousal rights overview — Omar Suleiman
• Delaying having children
• Wife's rights not being fulfilled
• Rights of husband over wife
• PlaylistMarriage spousal rights playlist
• PlaylistGender relations playlist
• PlaylistFiqh for women playlist
• PlaylistIntimacy Q&A playlist
• PlaylistPolygyny Q&A playlist

A serious decision. Listen to multiple scholars before acting, and use mediation services where possible.

Whether to divorce

• Factors to consider whether to divorce or not — talk 1
• Factors to consider whether to divorce or not — talk 2

Divorce Q&A & khul'a

• PlaylistDivorce Q&A playlist
• Detailed lecture on khul'a (women seeking divorce)
• Reasons women can seek divorce — discussion 1
• Reasons women can seek divorce — discussion 2

Mediation & legal

• Sulha Solutions — award-winning online dispute resolution for Muslims.
• AMJA Family Code for Muslim Communities in North America
• islam.ca
• How to get an Islamic divorce in Canada
• Islamic Foundation — Nikah / Khul'a services
• Canadian Council of Muslim Women (CCMW)

Child custody

• AMJA fatwas on child custody
• Child custody — lecture

Moving on

• How to move on from breakups and losses — the escalator metaphor
• Moving on after divorce and trials

Verify rulings; do not act on a single forwarded video.

• AMJA — Assembly of Muslim Jurists of America
• MuftiQA
• IslamQA
• Hadith Disciple channel — daily live Q&A, set notifications.

What to work through before you commit — practical steps, the right questions, and Istikhara.

• VideoPre-marriage checklist — Be Prepared
• VideoQuestions to discuss before marriage
• Video10 Steps to Marriage for Single Muslims — Sh. Sajid Lipham
• VideoPre-marriage contracts and conditions — fiqh
• How to pray Istikhara — written guide. Practice video
• Khalil Center — pre-marital coaching — structured sessions before the wedding.
• CZ Relationship Mastery (full master doc) — fatwas, trust-issue resources, inter-faith/sect fiqh, deeper checklists.

Muslim-focused platforms. Vet each one — ownership models and data policies vary. Involve your wali early.

• Pure Matrimony — Muslim-owned, Shariah-compliant, active globally.
• Half Our Deen
• Simply Nikah
• My Better Half — for divorcees, widows, and new Muslims.
• Muslima — large user base; not Muslim-owned.
• Ummah Masjid matchmaking — Toronto-based community service.
• ISNA Matrimonial

Imams and centres in the GTA who perform the nikah. Some are also licensed by the province to solemnize and register the civil marriage at the same time, so the religious and legal marriage happen in one step. Ask each office whether they register with the city, and note you still need a marriage licence from your municipality first.

Mosques & centres

• ISNA Canada, Marriage services
• Khalid Bin Al-Walid Mosque, Getting married
• Salaheddin Islamic Centre, Marriage & nikah services
• Abu Huraira Centre (North York) nikah with Qazi Abdul Qayoum Karimi. (647) 709-7912

Imams & officiants (GTA)

• Qazi Abdul Qayoum Karimi North York, Abu Huraira Centre. (647) 709-7912
• Usama Mujbar Scarborough area. (647) 808-4266
• Sh. Abukar Mohamed recognized marriage religious official; call to book an appointment. (416) 745-2888 ext. 0
• Sh. Kamil Ahmad contact form: kamilahmad.com/contact

Directories

• Muslim Agent, Nikah services many officiants listed; contact each directly.

Register the civil marriage

• Ontario, Getting married how to get a marriage licence from your city or town hall, and how the marriage gets registered. Bring the licence to the officiant if they are provincially licensed to solemnize.

Libby app = free e-books and audiobooks via your library.

Marriage & communication

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work — John Gottman — evidence-based, the canonical marriage book.
• Crucial Conversations — how to talk when stakes are high. Essential for any relationship.
• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People — Stephen Covey

Free YouTube courses

• PlaylistMarriage Makeover — Haleh Banani — therapist-led series; free and practical.

Free Islamic PDFs

• Don't Be Sad
• Useful Ways of Leading a Happy Life
• Enjoy Your Life

For underlying mental-health issues alongside relationship work, professional support helps. The full list is on Personal Growth → Counsellors. Below are the relationship-focused entry points.

Helplines

• Naseeha Helpline
• Nisa Helpline
• An-Nisaa

Counselling organizations

• muslimcounselling.ca
• Ruh Care
• Khalil Center
• Faith Consulting
• Nafs Healing

Just as Allah can test us with a cough or the flu, He can test us with evil eye, jinn, or magic. Take the means to protect yourself and your family, more than you would against bacteria, whether or not you suspect anything. The first response is your own consistent Quran recitation, sunnah supplications, and presence of heart, not someone else reading over you. Engage a trusted reciter only in severe, uncontrollable cases.

Learning & education

• Ruqya Q&A one-stop resource for magic, jinn, and evil eye.
• PlaylistRuqya playlist 1
• PlaylistRuqya playlist 2

Protect yourself & family (daily habit)

• VideoHow to protect yourself and your family
• VideoListening Ruqya cure by listening to Quran and authentic supplications.
• Hisnul Muslim (Fortress of the Muslim) morning and evening adhkar, and duas for pain, anxiety, and sorrow.

Reciters (raaqi) in the GTA, if you need external help

• Sh. Ahmed Mohamed (416) 830-7343
• Sheikh Abdullah (416) 894-6615
• Shaikh Samoo (416) 830-7343
• Shaikh Usama Mujbar (647) 808-4266

1. Read the approach: abuhuraira.org/counseling
2. Fill the marriage/spousal form: Marriage form (or the family form: Family coaching form)
3. Watch the intro playlist: Intro playlist
4. Specifically watch Coach Zubair's relationship approach
5. Commit to a weekly evaluation using the weekly template.